Dear Dr. Brown – I just wanted to drop you a quick note to thank you for the sharing of your work and research on shame, guilt and wholehearted living. Your writing is most inspiring and has helped put some pieces together for me. I have been blessed to have had a number of discoveries and events fall into place that is contributing to my progress. Thank you again.
I woke this morning unsure of what I would write about this in this week’s blog. I have begun rereading Brené Brown’s book “Daring Greatly”. In the early chapters she addresses a common perception that we are living in a highly narcissistic world and that the sense of narcissism comes from the fear of not being perceived as “extraordinary”. How sad. She goes on to suggest that for the most part, we are living in a “scarcity culture”. Do you ever find yourself considering, feeling, or worse, saying out loud any of the following deadly phrases: (From Daring Greatly)
never good enough
never perfect enough
never thin enough
never powerful enough
never smart enough
never certain enough
never safe enough
never extraordinary enough
Let’s deal with the foundation here. In Scroll 4, Og suggests that we are clearly extraordinary enough. We are each so unique. That alone makes us extraordinary. Harbouring any of these feelings for more than a fleeting moment will initiate the process of us manifesting them by simple virtue of natural, universal law. To return to the Bob Newhart skit – “Stop It!!”
Here’s the thing. My world is far from perfect – yet. I was master mining with my good friend Phil Sykes this morning (who is a current MKMMA alumni – do check out his blogs. He’s an excellent writer). We were chatting about happiness and Phil commented on feeling notably more happy now at the halfway point of the course. I must agree. I too am happier in many ways. I’m still very broke, still battling old blueprints and tapes, fighting self image challenges etc., but the future has never looked brighter. I’ve experienced miracles in the past, but I’m beginning to understand that many times the miracles we experience, while still gifts from God, are usually both answers to prayers/concentrated, emotionally charged thought and a natural response based on universal law. I don’t wish to discredit divine intervention, but I would suggest that even those experiences are based on laws that may reside outside of our current understanding.
Oh my – once again. Blessed beyond measure. I took a break from writing earlier this afternoon. Had a very fitful rest and woke up in that all too common experience of feeling the crushing weight of not getting enough packed into the critically insufficient 24 hours we each endure. I returned to Daring Greatly for a moment, picking up where I had left off only to discover the following… (Brené quoting Lynne Twist from The Soul of Money –
‘For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is “I didn’t get enough sleep”. The next is “I don’t have enough time” Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it. We spend most of the hours and days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don’t have enough of… Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we’re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, already lacking something. And by the time we go to bed at night, our minds are racing with a litany of what we didn’t get, or didn’t get done, that day. We go to sleep burdened by those thoughts and wake up to the reverie of lack… This internal condition of scarcity, this mind-set of scarcity, lives at the very heart of our jealousies, our greed, our prejudice, and our arguments with life…’
What I failed to mention is, that between getting up from that terrible nap and reading the section I quoted above, I sat to watch a movie. I’ve been a Disney geek most of my life and I discovered that Tomorrowland is on Netflix. It’s not that old a movie and that it’s on Canadian Netflix kind of confirms to me that it didn’t do well in the theatres. It’s directed by Brad Bird (The Incredibles) and has a pretty decent cast. The movie has the requisite layer of Disney optimism for a “Great Big Beautiful Tomorrow” (Carousel of Progress) and a quick nod to a punk’d out “It’s a Small World” attraction. Weak in a few places, but totally uplifting and hopeful. I love that stuff. I wonder if it’s possible – the thought of changing things for the better. I suppose, in that I thought of it as possible, then clearly, it must be. Invest the 2 hours and watch it. Don’t let the syrup and a couple of marginal green screen issues ruin it for you. It’s worth the time. There are some pretty clear MKMMA/Hero’s Journey concepts on display.
Have a great week. Strive every day to just get one more piece of the puzzle in place. It’s so worth it.